Frank Havens Jr.'s Obituary
Frank Havens, Jr., 84, of San Diego, California, passed away, September 4, 2023. He was born on January 26, 1939 in Alhambra, CA.
Frank graduated from San Gabriel high school 1957. He went on to proudly serve eight years in the US Air Force. Upon his discharge he attended and graduated from Palomar College. Frank spent is career as a Systems Analyst for Burroughs, Cadence and Unisys, where he made significant contributions and they didn’t want him to retire.
Frank was a quiet man with a great sense of humor. He had a passion for running which took his family, and the neighborhood, to Hawaii for the Honolulu Marathon. He was an avid golfer where he competed in a seniors circuit for what was known as the ugliest green jacket, which he came home with several times. Frank enjoyed boating, fishing and camping in the Sierras where he passed down the tradition to the next two generations. When he wasn’t watching sports, he turned on reruns of The Duke. One of his favorite sayings by John Wayne was, “We’re burnin’ daylight”. He became quite the traveler in retirement, visiting Ireland, Germany, Turkey, Italy, Iceland, Hawaii, Australia, and more with Carole. When in Maui, he routinely stood on his lanai at sunset and blew the conch shell.
Frank coached his boys in soccer and baseball when they were younger. Although Frank bled Dodger Blue, he started to watch the Padres in his later years.
Those that knew Frank know he loved food and appreciated a good beer, ok Coors Light; especially sitting in his lawn chair in the driveway after a long run. He treasured his weekly breakfasts at local haunts with friends. He also ruined Friday night pizza with too much garlic, but it was his favorite.
Frank was a loving son, brother, uncle, husband, father, Papa, great-grandfather, and friend. He will be deeply missed by family, friends and all those whose lives he touched. May he rest in peace.
Frank was preceded in death by his father, Frank Havens, Sr, his mother, Grace Elizabeth Havens (Crosby), his first wife, Maureen Elizabeth Havens (McGervey) and his half-sister, Fern Kirby.
Frank is survived by his loving wife of 22 years, Carole Ann Havens (Dobie), his two sons and daughter-in-laws; William Frank (Dawn), and Tyson Darrell (Aimee). His stepchildren Wendy Richardson-Collins (Chris), David Richardson (Janet), and Eric Richardson (Sandy). Seven grandsons whom he was very proud of: Joshua William (Chloe Rose), Curren Jacob, Nolan Wyatt, Marcus Barry, Robert Daniel, Jack Franklan, Brady Alexander Zedelmayer, and Wyatt Eric Richardson. He was also blessed with a great granddaughter, Scarlett Rose, who holds the distinction of being the first girl born into the Havens family in over 150 years. He is also survived by nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews.
A memorial service to celebrate Frank’s life will be held at First United Methodist Church, located at 341 S. Kalmia St. in Escondido on October 20, 2023 at 11:00am.
In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to the hawaiicommunityfoundation.org (Maui-strong-fund) and friendsoftheinyo.org.
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